Tuesday, February 28, 2017

WE SEE OUR BABY AT LAST!



Jeanne was brought to us (finally) bathed and dressed and hungry.  Paul and I were ecstatic as I fed her the tiny bottle of formula and looked into her huge aquamarine eyes.  I had never seen eyes that startling color before and I prayed they would stay that intense blue-green, but they did not.  Within a few weeks Jeanne had brown eyes like me, but she was a gorgeous baby girl with perfect skin, dimpled hands, downy brown hair and a lovely smile.  Naturally, none of the three other babies in the room could compare to our baby who we knew was extraordinary.

Grandparents arrived who were as smitten as we were and pronounced Jeanne perfect.  Many, many flowers were delivered from our relatives and friends until I felt I lived in a fragrant garden.  I missed my baby when she was taken back to the nursery and eagerly waited until the next feeding.

Only one thing marred the perfection of these few days.  It was a cold, cold February and late at night the temperature in the room dropped.  We new mothers were told that each and every time we used the bathroom, we had to take the pitcher of  icy green liquid antibiotic and hurl it onto our most private parts.  Each time I would delay as long as possible before dousing myself with the near freezing liquid.  What fresh hell was this?  Who had devised this fiendish plan?  If I didn't do it, would they KNOW?  There were probably hidden cameras!  So I would hold my breath and pour it on with my right hand, try to muffle my screams with my left hand and then hobble back to bed, my thin ugly hospital gown offering no protection from the icy cold whatsoever.  Once back under the covers, I thanked God for creating warmth, surely his most wondrous invention, except for babies of course.


To be concluded








Thursday, February 23, 2017

A NEW BEGINNING - Part 2



The next half hour went by very fast.  I was rushed to the delivery room and given something to wear on my wrist.  If the pain got bad, I was to breathe in some gas. Unfortunately, as soon as I went out my arm would drop and the pain was still there!  Dr. Scott came rushing in still wearing his golf clothes beneath his gown and got to work.  I was asked if I wanted a mirror placed in front of the birth canal.  Being squeamish I really didn't want to know just what was happening, so I declined while screaming.  A few minutes passed during which I was not brave.....and then Jeanne Kathryn Bressoud arrived.  I was overjoyed.  I was allowed to see her for about a nanosecond before she was whisked away (things were very different then). At some point I was given something to stop my milk from coming in and I don't recall giving my permission.  It was just assumed new mothers would NOT nurse and we were given lots of formula upon leaving the hospital.  Mother/baby bonding apparently had no importance in those days as I did not see Jeanne for hours.  I was whisked out of the delivery room and left in the hall as it had all happened so fast there was no room ready.

I saw Paul coming down the hall looking cheerful.  He began telling me a funny story about something that happened at dinner. Finally, I interrupted with "Are you excited?"  He looked confused.  "About the baby being a girl?" "What?" I began to wonder about his mental health and then I realized that he didn't know.

"Jeanne has been born, Paul, while you were gone!  Didn't anyone call you?"

A huge grin lit up his face.  "The baby is a girl?  She's here?"

"Yes, she's here.  It happened very fast. They don't even have a room ready for me. I'm so happy! Isn't it wonderful?"

"Yes!!"  Paul actually jumped into the air.  I could not believe my eyes.  We both started laughing and acting like fools.

              TO BE CONTINUED














Wednesday, February 22, 2017

FEBRUARY 22, 1967--A NEW BEGINNING



On the morning of February 22, 1967, I was awakened by a slight, but significant pain.  I woke my husband, Paul, immediately.

"I have a pain!" I cried.  He looked bewildered and his blue eyes slowly closed.  "Wake up," I cried.  "Today is the day and I have a pain."  His blue eyes slowly opened.

"Have you taken some aspirin?" he said reasonably.  Was the man simple?

"Today is the 22nd and I have a pain.  It may be labor!"  He immediately snapped to attention and started running around the room, looking for God-knows-what.  Probably his clothes.  "Should I call Dr. Scott?"

"Yes, call Dr. Scott!" he said and lit a cigarette.  "I'll make coffee and you call Dr. Scott and ask him what to do."

"Do we have time for coffee?" I said. "What if the baby is coming now?"

Paul inhaled deeply and thought about this.  "I don't think it happens that fast."

"No, surely not," I said.  All I could think of was Prissy in Gone With The Wind screaming, "I don't know nuthin' 'bout birthin' babies!" (It was 1967.  We didn't know this was racist.)

Dr. Scott was quite calm and said we could meander down to the hospital any time now.  It would be a while before the baby came.

Seven or eight hours later I had still not had a serious pain and was laughing and joking with the Candystripers.  Paul had hoped for a little action by now and he was becoming increasingly anxious.

"Paul, go on over to your parents' house and have some dinner.  I think it's going to be a while yet."  Gratefully, Paul sped away to the safety of his mother's dinner table.  Since there was absolutely no drama, the pretty little Candystripers lost interest and wandered away.  I was quite cheerful.  What was all the fuss about childbirth for heaven's sakes?  I burrowed under the covers with Cosmopolitan and Helen Gurley Brown, hoping to find an article about sex.  I soon found one entitled 27 Positions for Blissful Sex and I settled down for a good read when....

            Oh, my God! I yelped.

Was this was they were talking about?  Suddenly, I wanted to put a knife under the bed to cut the pain in two.  Good Grief!!  This was terrible!  After two more earth-shattering pains I called the nurse.

"And how are we doing, Miss Linda?  Coming along are we?" she said, smiling broadly.  How dare she smile?  Suddenly, I disliked her intensely.  I was suffering and she was all sweetness and light.

"I think my baby is coming!" I loudly announced.  "In fact, I'm sure of it."

"Oh, let's not jump the gun, Sweetheart. This is your first and I don't think--"

"Would you check," I said through gritted teeth.  "I can feel it coming."

Nurse Ratched laughed merrily as she pulled aside the covers.  "We'll just take a little looksee and you can calm down oh my God it IS coming and Dr. Scott is at the golf course it's Wednesday."  Nurse looked stricken.  "I'll just go and call him," she said and departed with all possible speed.

I was alone with my baby ready to pop out into the world at any moment.  I crossed my legs and prayed. Out loud.  

              TO BE CONTINUED
                  



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